Deployment Stresses

I completely understand that deployments are stressful. Not just for the soldier but for the families left behind. Extra chores have to be picked up, errands done alone, temporarily being a single parent, and everything else in between. However, there is a limit to how much a person can take as things get dished out from the deployed spouse to the homefront spouse. Just because you had a crappy day that day, does not give you the right to contact your spouse and make them feel two inches tall for something they did not do. And when it becomes a daily occurance, how can you expect your spouse to give you what you want or need when you degrade them every chance you get? What happened to a marriage being a partnership? Just like every relationship, there are good things and there are bad. But there comes to a point when the bad days really start to take over and begin to cloud over the good times. You cannot ask someone to do something spacific for you if YOU cannot return the favor. Some soldiers have this thinking that they can treat their wife, kids, and anyone else in their life however they want to but everyone should bow down to that soldier. I hate to tell you, but it does not work that way. When soldiers deploy, there is a war fought at home during that time as well. The remaining spouse has to pick up a lot of work. My days run so into each other that I have times where I don't even know what day it is! I cannot be expected to work 24 hours a day, for days at a time. Eventually, my system is gonna shut down to catch up on the Z's I've lost.